What helped me the most was to just jump into a project and start coding. I decided to try to do a clone of twitter, just to see if I could get that working. It helped that I had a few friends who were good rails hackers that I could go to with questions.
IMO you should learn ruby and rails framework at the same time. The knowledge of ruby will help you gain a deeper understanding of rails inner workings like the use of method_missing, concept of self and so on. I would recommend The Ruby Programming language by David Flanagan. The Pragmatic Programmer's book Programming Ruby is quite good as well.
I would seriously recommend you pick up 'The Rails Way' by Obie Fernandez.
The Rails framework and methodology/philosophy is somewhat hard to just "get into". A complete picture of what's going on - ActiveRecord, Migrations, etc - is incredibly hard to get from the "15 minute blog" screencasts.
I picked up the book last night and so far it's going well.
http://guides.rubyonrails.org/
http://asciicasts.com/ (text versions of the railscasts mentioned below)
Screencasts:
http://rubyonrails.org/screencasts
http://railscasts.com/
Books:
http://www.pragprog.com/titles/rails3/agile-web-development-...
http://www.pragprog.com/titles/fr_arr/advanced-rails-recipes
And others in the Ruby and Ruby on Rails sections at prag progammers: http://www.pragprog.com/categories
The "pickaxe book" (http://www.pragprog.com/titles/ruby/programming-ruby) is often considered the standard Ruby reference, and there is a version for 1.9.
API:
http://railsapi.com/
http://api.rubyonrails.org/
http://www.gotapi.com/rubyrails
Conference presentations:
http://www.confreaks.com/events
Ruby and Rails projects are abundant on github, providing lots of example code.