"The nasty politics of social groups has rarely ever crept into my life sense."
Except for the rest of the world that doesn't live up to your, let's be honest, pretty high, political standers required to enter your social group.
"i was able to be friends with people that saw the world in interesting ways, and cared about things that made sense."
If someone wants to be friends with you, knew this is what you valued, and yet didn't 'qualify'; their ability to enter your social group becomes seriously vague and very hard to navigate.
"It gets better when you're able to choose your friends, your you're able to make friends on your own terms, not just pick from those around you."
Ever ponder the possibility that there were, or are, some people out there that just can't figure out your social politics and are maybe confused and lonely wondering what it is about them that you don't like?
I really don't understand your point. I don't like everybody, and not everybody has to like me. That doesn't mean i'm out to actively ruin someone else's day.
If we look at the issue rationally, it's an issue of coordination and sorting. People that have mutual kinship can improve their position with people with similar interests. If you have some sort of "objective coolness" in your theory of friendship, then you may run into issues with constantly shooting yourself in the foot by only pursuing friends that happen to in the upper tiers of your coolness bell curve, and their will always be the paradox of choice, but i'm not really sure why i'm not supposed to have preferences when it comes to the people i associate with.
Except for the rest of the world that doesn't live up to your, let's be honest, pretty high, political standers required to enter your social group.
"i was able to be friends with people that saw the world in interesting ways, and cared about things that made sense."
If someone wants to be friends with you, knew this is what you valued, and yet didn't 'qualify'; their ability to enter your social group becomes seriously vague and very hard to navigate.
"It gets better when you're able to choose your friends, your you're able to make friends on your own terms, not just pick from those around you."
Ever ponder the possibility that there were, or are, some people out there that just can't figure out your social politics and are maybe confused and lonely wondering what it is about them that you don't like?