A few months of skiing sounds nice, but not as nice as the profound pleasure of working on a team of people I've know and cared about for over a decade.
You're going to spend half your waking life at work. For me, that's too much time to not want to do so at a place where I have real relationships with my coworkers.
This is ultimately what some of the risk comes down to: you invest time(a decade is a long time!) into creating meaningful relationships at work and one day you come in to have your key card de-activated and some corporate speak as to why. There are certainly people working on truly meaningful projects out there, with teams they trust and adore...but for most of the workforce, even in tech, its just work and any fun had at work is a great cherry on top.
How is this different than the manager who has spent years developing an employee - making sure they are getting the experiences they need to build a better career, hiring the right people to complement the team, fighting for bonuses and pay raises - only to have them quit to join the next company for a 10% raise. It is difficult to build a long-term culture when society seems to expect job hopping to rapidly advance a career.
On a related note, it is odd that HN comments rarely seem to include a manager’s perspective.
I've never seen people leaving great jobs for a 10% raise. It's always something else: a much bigger benefit, or a significant downside of the current job, which are not widely publicized. Instead, I've seen people going to a lower-paying position for a more interesting job, a chance to learn new hot thing hands-on, a different set of responsibilities, etc.
I worked with a guy who left for more money, found out the grass wasn’t greener, and came crawling back. Then did it again. For some reason they hired him back a second time. When he quit the 3rd time I think that was the final bridge burned. I asked him about it and he said money was his singular metric for choosing a job, he was always looking, and would never stop.
Yeah, I left a job where I loved the team and didn't mind the leadership too much for a 45% raise. Got lucky and the job I landed in was an even better fit for me.
I remember a guy at a previous job doing something similar - left for a React job (despite being a PHP developer), then came back like 6 months later because he couldn't get his head around React, then left again like 6 months later. Pretty sure it was about money because the PHP job was pretty relaxed and had some good perks.
Yeah I was offered a job with 12% better pay recently - from a friend too so I knew the job couldn't be too bad. But I feel like I'm onto a good thing where I am and the perks are okay (plus I'd probably be burning some bridges just by leaving).
Oh totally! I don't have that perspective from the manager as I am very much an IC, and I have 0 experience job hopping as well as I have basically been with the same company for most of my career. I would say, naively, that part of that difference comes down to job description. If its in a manager's job description to: "make sure they are getting the experiences they need to build a better career, hire the right people to complement the team, fight for bonuses and pay raises", then they should be doing those things. If not, they are going above and beyond and I would certainly consider them a great manager...but the truth is that there are not that many managers out there doing this.
Interestingly, I have never had a job description that actually said "make sure they are getting the experiences they need to build a better career, hire the right people to complement the team, fight for bonuses and pay raises." Rather they say something like 'effectively lead team to do...." To effectively lead the team, IMHO, one needs to "make sure they are getting the experiences they need to build a better career, hire the right people to complement the team, fight for bonuses and pay raises." I think this is true for all managers/leaders.
It may be true for all good managers and leaders but alas that is not the world we live in. Effectively leading a team to some people means walking behind them with a switch and cracking them every time they make a mistake. Managers
An experienced manager would know that is how the game is played and act accordingly. Don't get emotionally attached to any work relationships. It's transactional, keep that in mind.
Well yeah, the problem is capitalism. The least you can do is try to tilt the scale in your favor as much as possible. That’s absolutely what capital is doing all the time.
I think there is always going to be a middle ground. We are not robots and if the people I work with are a pleasure to be around and work with, there is a natural connection there that can be labeled "emotional" I guess, but it is very much in the moment for me. I want my manager to be somewhat invested in my success, and I somewhat reciprocate that. Additionally, while the business is transactional, it is almost always the case that the employer has more information than you, making it an uphill battle in the first place.
Wow, I couldn't disagree more. My personal life is what I enjoy, the random people I work with to make money and will be gone as soon as I quit or get laid off, well... I just don't want them to be toxic. I already have a ton of friends, I don't need to convert work people into my social life. Skiing for a few months sounds super amazing though!
You're going to spend half your waking life at work. For me, that's too much time to not want to do so at a place where I have real relationships with my coworkers.