I’ve had similar experiences with the "XY Problem". When I was learning, I’d sometimes ask weird questions questions, like "Is it safe to call React's useState setter function outside the component it was created in or from an event handler?" Instead of a direct answer, yes it's safe, I’d often just get linked to an XY Problem website and told to explain what I was actually trying to accomplish. Then get argued with about whether or not this was an anti-pattern, without ever getting the original question answered.
I had similar experience with #perl on Freenode, the people there were very helpful and I don't think anyone there intended any amusement at my expense. But getting your weird questions answered was like pulling teeth.
Now, I always try to answer the original question first, then follow up with additional explanation about why doing something might be a bad idea or lead to future inconvenience.
This sounds a bit like today's default chatgpt verbosity - you usually get an entire printout of context and side thoughts and blah, with the answer you're looking for buried somewhere in there.
It's different, ChatGPT is usually pretty good about directly answering the question. It may hallucinate entirely inaccurate answers or produce yet another listicle, but it doesn't generally assume things about your question or context. It's also not as high-latency as talking with another person over the internet, so maybe it just doesn't feel the same?
I had similar experience with #perl on Freenode, the people there were very helpful and I don't think anyone there intended any amusement at my expense. But getting your weird questions answered was like pulling teeth.
Now, I always try to answer the original question first, then follow up with additional explanation about why doing something might be a bad idea or lead to future inconvenience.