You nailed it with this comment. Yes I was giving a generalized statement. I do believe the majority of patients are blissfully unaware and not suffering. They laugh and joke and tell the same story they enjoy telling over and over lol. There are some cases where they seem scared or panicked. In those cases you work on routines that they can fall into and communicate with the doctor and if possible use medications to make them more comfortable.
I worked in a advanced dementia facility for years. Ops mom having undiagnosed UTI is unfortunate but in facility it is much easier to spot for those who are experienced. The frequency of bathroom trips and believe it or not you learn the smell of a persons urine and bowel movements. So when things smell off you investigate.
I can't say I know exactly what the patients are experiencing but I have had years providing care for dementia patients and a huge part of that is family members. I really teach them about burnout and not to feel guilty asking for a break. I praise them for what they do. I am watching family members just as much as I am the clients (I am currently not in facility but work out in the community). Many of the family members are elderly also so may lack full understanding of everything. If they are crying or yelling things like that I discuss with the team strategies how we can make it easier for them.
So much to say here but your comment hit a lot of very good points. Many people genuinely care and want to help. Nothing is perfect and some cases are very hard to manage. I too am sorry to hear op struggled with his mom it is one thing to see it in a client and another to see it in a family member. I wish anyone experiencing it the best.
I worked in a advanced dementia facility for years. Ops mom having undiagnosed UTI is unfortunate but in facility it is much easier to spot for those who are experienced. The frequency of bathroom trips and believe it or not you learn the smell of a persons urine and bowel movements. So when things smell off you investigate.
I can't say I know exactly what the patients are experiencing but I have had years providing care for dementia patients and a huge part of that is family members. I really teach them about burnout and not to feel guilty asking for a break. I praise them for what they do. I am watching family members just as much as I am the clients (I am currently not in facility but work out in the community). Many of the family members are elderly also so may lack full understanding of everything. If they are crying or yelling things like that I discuss with the team strategies how we can make it easier for them.
So much to say here but your comment hit a lot of very good points. Many people genuinely care and want to help. Nothing is perfect and some cases are very hard to manage. I too am sorry to hear op struggled with his mom it is one thing to see it in a client and another to see it in a family member. I wish anyone experiencing it the best.