I keep reading about how dating apps don’t work, but at least from my own personal experience and from my friends’ experience, they work very well.
The key, I think, is to
1. live in a big city with lots of single people your age
2. pay (if you’re a guy)
I don’t consider myself anything special, but following these 2 steps I literally had more dates than I could handle (with women I actually wanted to meet). 3 of those ended up being long term 1y+ relationships.
So 1) have money, and 2) have money. We also don't know what you look like which is a hugely important factor, maybe even the most important with app based dating where the swiping decisions are made in fractions of a second.
I'm not trying to downplay your experience but these kind of anecdotes don't mean much, especially when we're missing so much information.
The usual story is that 20% of the guys get 80% of the attention in online dating. If you are one of those guys it's the best thing since the swinging sixties.
The key, I think, is to
1. live in a big city with lots of single people your age
2. pay (if you’re a guy)
I don’t consider myself anything special, but following these 2 steps I literally had more dates than I could handle (with women I actually wanted to meet). 3 of those ended up being long term 1y+ relationships.