I believe, in general, no one wants to be stereotyped/labeled/put in a tidy little box but people do want to be noticed.
The Barnum descriptions are extreme in that they juxtapose contrasting personality traits/behavior (shy v. gregarious). However, almost every interesting conversation that I can recall - was about something that the other person wanted to tell other people that was not readily apparent. Related: If you want to make it easier for people to talk to you, stop hiding behind cliches (weather, sports) and talk with conviction on something that you have conviction on (e.g. if you don't like/understand why are football players paid millions - talk about that v. that was a good first down)
Whether being "cold-read" or having an interesting conversation or talking about "Community" or just living their daily experience, people just want to feel like they matter...
> Because a part of the shared human experience—which is basically what the entire show boiled down to—is that we want to leave our mark, so that people know that we'd been here. (I mean, that was the point of all the different shit, like the statue, and hieroglyphs and the empty Dharma barracks. They were all just footprints of the people who had been on the Island before.) And a large part of that, of leaving a footprint, or a mark, is to establish a basic need: To know that we matter.
The Barnum descriptions are extreme in that they juxtapose contrasting personality traits/behavior (shy v. gregarious). However, almost every interesting conversation that I can recall - was about something that the other person wanted to tell other people that was not readily apparent. Related: If you want to make it easier for people to talk to you, stop hiding behind cliches (weather, sports) and talk with conviction on something that you have conviction on (e.g. if you don't like/understand why are football players paid millions - talk about that v. that was a good first down)
Whether being "cold-read" or having an interesting conversation or talking about "Community" or just living their daily experience, people just want to feel like they matter...
> Because a part of the shared human experience—which is basically what the entire show boiled down to—is that we want to leave our mark, so that people know that we'd been here. (I mean, that was the point of all the different shit, like the statue, and hieroglyphs and the empty Dharma barracks. They were all just footprints of the people who had been on the Island before.) And a large part of that, of leaving a footprint, or a mark, is to establish a basic need: To know that we matter.
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