I can understand trying to have a calming discourse whose message pretty much amounts to "c'est la vie".

But even if that is not your intention, it can come out as dismissive. Many people do worry about the future for very good reasons.

How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever?

Plan for the future, good or bad, but don't dwell on what you can't control.

> How does it help your situation to worry about something you cannot control or influence in any way whatsoever?

They affect me. I don’t give a fuck what the sun does everyday if I can’t pay my rent.

Worrying won't pay your rent either, is the point.

No, but it’ll certainly make me more likely to do things that might pay my rent. Certainly compared to a “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude.

You're basically agreeing with the people you were arguing with. It's the "do things" part that worthwhile, not the "worry about it" part.

> “la de da nothing is wrong xd it is what it is” attitude

You misunderstood, no one above was taking that attitude.

I think many people, especially the privileged in tech, haven't had to worry about money before. The possibility of losing it all and ending up homeless doesn't even cross their mind, either from ignorance or from significant personal/family wealth that provides a safety net.

Easy not to worry when you can't fathom that it may happen to you or your peer.

My job pays for the roof over my head and the food on my table. How am I supposed to be happy without that?

I also struggle to separate what I do from who I am. I've been trying to build a more purposeful sense of identity outside of work, because jobs will come and go. Plus I sound like a real tool if someone asks me what my deal is and all I can say is "software engineer".