> the qualities you suppress the most—because they make you weird or different from other people. At some point in your life, you were probably shamed for embodying those qualities, so you learned to conceal them.
> But here’s the thing: We notice things because of contrast. Something stands out because it’s different from what surrounds it.
The other thing that happens is that you get so used to your own quirks and traits that they don't seem remarkable whatsoever, like how the fish can't tell it's swimming in water. And then particularly for introverts, if you don't get out and contrast yourself agains the people around you, it's easy to go around life with no concept of what makes you unique.
> But here’s the thing: We notice things because of contrast. Something stands out because it’s different from what surrounds it.
The other thing that happens is that you get so used to your own quirks and traits that they don't seem remarkable whatsoever, like how the fish can't tell it's swimming in water. And then particularly for introverts, if you don't get out and contrast yourself agains the people around you, it's easy to go around life with no concept of what makes you unique.