Not sure about the "men are hypo-selective" aspect you claim, but the rest of what you wrote really resonates with me- I learned profession really doesn't matter, in fact people in highly competitive fields tend to be the worst in relationships. They already made their choice when they made the crazy high commitment.

Doctors and VPs at Tesla or other major companies were almost universally less fun dates and overall emotionally unavailable, with only one exception out of dozens for me. I was a little disappointed to reality this but once I accepted and incorporated it into my selections, things improved vastly.