A large part of the problem is that many men who wanted to be married are already paired off.

You may have to make tradeoffs for “willing to marry and have children” versus other aspects of what you want in a partner.

Out of all your friends who are (happily) married, could you see yourself with someone like their husband? If the answer is no, why not?

Also, if you are religious, have you thought of finding someone via those events?