I'm nearly 40, and didn't relate to anxiety at all until I was 35. Until then, I would use lots of different words to describe how I simply wasn't good at being in a number of situations. I now believe that was a better way of thinking, because once I identified what was happening to me as anxiety, it actually got worse. "Anxiety" is something that should be treated and actively managed, which puts fuel on the fire. The less I frame my mental health in terms of anxiety, the better off I am.

I'm sure there are any number of reasons why this way of thinking won't help others, but I totally get why lots of ADHD sufferers have started calling it "bees in my head" instead of ADHD. What we call things affects how we think about it.