My wife in her late 30s stopped dying her hair since the pandemic started and she's got a lot of gray hair, especially compared to me who i have none. She remembers having it since she was 18 but kept on dying it afterwards. I find her looking great with gray hair. I have to add that she is in a great shape and that compensates for the gray hair.

I'm glad to hear that, but it doesn't really have any context to this article where older developers are being subjected to ageism in the work place.

If women are okay with gray hair so should men be. I don't think hiding the gray hair does any good, the reasons for not hiring older people from what I understand the preference for younger culture because they don't have experience and are gullible and also the pay is lower. Dying one's hair ain't gonna solve those requirements by the hiring companies. And in addition, some people start graying as early as their 20s and never bother to dye it.

We're talking about physical perception, that's why people go out of their way to get plastic surgery, braces, wear makeup, etc, to impress other people. You can say how things should be, and what the ideal world should be. But the fact remains, physical appearance helps immensely, whether that person is qualified or not. Why do people put on a suit for a silly interview? Why can't I just come in with flip flops and shorts? Yeh the world sucks, you play the game in a way that gives yourself the best chance to win.

You can spot a dye job a mile away though. As someone else mentioned it smacks of desperation.

I say this as a 51 year old dev with a lot of gray hair.

That's fine, but Hollywood, the media, and according to this article, employers, seem to think differently.