If I tar myself with the same brush -- what of it ? If what I say is correct, even if I express the same dysfunctional pattern, what of it? The fact that I may or may not see it in myself doesn't affect my ability to see it in other people.

I don't require your pity, I accept it tho, if that's what you want to give. It just makes you feel better. Feeling sorry for someone is a way to make yourself feel better than them, revealing your own insecurity.

I'm always looking to learn and for opportunities to improve. Could what I describe of others be something I do ? Of course.

At least I have the courage to say it, perhaps knowing that I exhibit it still. Willing to learn. I am. Are you?

Start where you are. Or you'll never get where you want to be.

Struggling against blaming others, instead of taking responsibility, struggling against doing, instead of hating, is something anyone can encounter. The point is, to see you have a choice, and choose something that works.

If you want to pretend you're already above that, and look down on me, the very need to look down on me shows me you aren't. If you were past this, and I wasn't, you'd help me with it. That's what you do when you've been through something.

When you haven't been through it, you can be afraid of it, and you accuse others of it to deny it of yourself. Because you haven't yet owned up to dealing with it yet.

That's the mechanism. That's what going on here.

So maybe your statement was just a damning accusation of you.

If you're gonna get personal you got to be prepared for how that reflects on you.