I have been a Linux user for 20 years and I have no idea what display server or windows manager I use. Every time this theme pops up on HN a lot of people argue very passionately about this and I feel I have no understanding at all of this. What are the stakes? Why does this matter? Why is there so much argument going on around Wayland, Xorg, X11 and whatever?
I guess it is like cars, some drive them, and some like to open the hood. That make a nice topic for discussion because we can all share anecdotes of broken stuff on Linux desktops. Same for Emacs/vim, instead of sharing what we are programming, we complain/argue about editors, because they are the shared experience we have in common.
Subjectivity is fine when it is backed by experience and knowledge. If anything, the narcissist perspective is the one where you claim expert opinion doesn't matter because it's all subjective and it hurts your feelings when people criticize your work (or your "taste").
There's nothing wrong with that. The problem is not that they were playing a childish game, it's that they were over-estimating their own abilities by a lot. It's ok to acknowledge you are good at something if you are, in fact, good at this thing.
> The problem is not that they were playing a childish game, it's that they were over-estimating their own abilities by a lot.
Why not both?
In an interview, you need to impress, and that's true for both the job-seeker and the hiring team. So yeah, you need to talk a bit about your accomplishments, and it's hard to do that without being a little braggy. But you can let your work be measured on its own. If you directly measure your accomplishments against the other person's, and especially if you put their accomplishments down, you're not selling them. You're showing off your personality flaws, even if you "win" the pissing contest.
I recently found a weird trick to motivate myself to do things I don't want to do. Instead of thinking of the outcome of this task (which I probably don't care much about since I don't want to do it in the first place), I think about the fact that doing things I don't want to do makes me better at doing things I don't want to do, which is a desirable outcome for me. Your mileage may vary.
I think development speed is merely tagging the correct causal factor which is expertise. I have witnessed development teams requiring weeks to change a single flag in a configuration flag? Were they slow? Well, yes, but I'd argue they were mostly clueless.
