Directly related to computing are the capabilities of asking questions. Why is that? Because the computer, being a tool to solve problems benefits from asking the right questions so you can solve them. Sinte the problem is usually within other peoples mind, you need to be good at extracting this knowledge from them. Hence the need for knowing how to ask.

If you add the issue of emotional barriers, then knowing how to handle difficult questions is even more powerful.

A different perspective. We all have our shadows, of things we believe to be but hurt us . When we need advice its usually about these topics. So the advice conflicts with our beliefs and we cannot act on them . Since these beliefs are hidden (shadows) then we ha e feelings against the advice and we rationalize why its wrong. In the proposed analysis, the answers are rationalizations of the feelings we have.

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As engineer to engineer... We are distributed on a bell curve, where everyone has different qualities.

One can move on the bell, but only to certain extent in a timeframe.

There are key traits that wont change, but some are flexible

I have changed to be more extrovert and being interested in other people, without changing who i am

I have experience in helping people overcome anxiety in many ways, one of them is people

Feel free to ask for more

Hey Daniel,

Appreciate your response. Could you describe what actions you took to move on the bell. Already I'm trying to talk to strangers more. I'm trying to strike some sort of balance between putting myself out of my comfort zone and being authentic to how I'm feeling in the moment. But progress is slow enough to be almost unnoticeable.

It’s important to note that you cannot change who you are.

You can, however, change how you behave.

The biggest thing you can do to notice the change is to practice taking to strangers.

Maybe you dont want people around you?

There are situations where the job is so demanding emotionally and yo dont want to be there

Lets talk, engineer to engineer

I can help you, to find a way forward I have created a service to help people to overcome limiting beliefs, find their own direction

Eventually finding a road into programming or other technical direction

My email is in my profile, lets talk

I can give you advice and help you overcome many limiting beliefs you have.

I have created a dedicated service to people who want to enter

Lmao wtf

Wft sure.... I am engineer that work with other engineers You can laugh as much as you can

But the proof is in the pudding. I do help people

Dont believe?

Id love to talk to you

A different take... Pylling the air might be a symptom if compulsive thoughts, makes with action. These thoughts are deep and come to you in situations of being not busy. Maybe the inner thoughts are related to not being connected to your emotions? There is hope, but i suppose we need to talk some more

Mental or emotional? Mental tiredness happens, but is usually recovered after a night sleep, being related with concentration and complexity handling

Emotional tiredness is much more difficult. It means we have a bad feeling that keeps un down and zaps energy.

The lifestyle change for handling emotional tiredness is diverse

But.. and its big but Sometimes one needs to do emotional work, to find out the reasons why it happens

FOMO is an expression of insecurity, that im not good enough here, so there it would be different. But guess what... The same person, you, is still there with the same insecurity. So what happens? FOMO again

See a pattern? Work on the insecurity and the FOMO will cure itself.

There is no avoidance of the emotional work needed