Hey are you planning to do it, if so would love to chat? I am quite intrigued by the wedding space (that's how I found this comment, searching for it)- would love to chat- (I am head of revenue at a startup in the bay, before that took another from 40 mil to 5.7B over the last 4 years)
But a friend recommended both of those books and they helped me get back on track- PS. I am very much an atheist, so the recommendations might seem offtrack but both of the books carry remarkable advise.
holy crap man. What a story. Glad to hear you are bouncing back from that.
Will read those with a lot of respect since they helped you go through such a difficult time.
Ever since I graduated I have worked in technology, SAAS (B2B) specifically I am 27 year old- Male, SAAS (B2B) specifically. I just accepted an offer to leave one of the hottest companies in the Bay (Went from 400 mil (2.5 Years ago, when I started) to 6 Billion today), I work in sales and have now been a part of 3 unicorns in the last 5 years. (All of them I started as an employee when they were small, 1 is worth 1.3B another worth 8B)
Here is Why I believe this trend is likely to continue and why:
Mindfulness/Actualization: I would say I am satisfied with my current job but the past 18 months brought about the perfect storm, I moved from SanFran to a small town in WA with no friends or family close by- so I had a lot of time to think and introspect. Secondly, I lost ever $ I saved since I started working ($392k to be precise)... this loss, helped me understand the real value of money- what it is worth and what it isn't, having some money saved aside- will no bring you happiness but losing it- will definitely lead to a reduction in happiness.
- This leads me my hypothesis on why, this trend is happening at large and now, people introspect their lives and realized "good enough" is really not good enough- it made them yearn for more, more in some cases meant money or a higher title- like it did for me.
Emptiness Syndrome: This is my own coinage, the way I would describe this as is trying to understand the meaning of life, what is it- just getting paid enough to stay fed, to afford rent and then what? A lot of folks started to search for a meaning to their lives... See google trends on "meaning of life" and "Suicide hotline number".
These 3 powerful forces, created the perfect amalgamation for the "great resignation" - Companies with a shit ton of money, -People having time to introspect, and the Emptiness syndrome.
PS. These are the ramblings of a 27 year old, single guy with nothing to watch on netflix and nothing better to do at 2.31am at night on a Saturday.
Was a very dumb move :) I actually sold out a day before my birthday at the start october... so I can start my 27's on the right foot, losses teach us and make us better :)
Not necessarily a "regrets" post - but sometimes you just don't know any better. Had you more information you might have made different decisions. That is all.
I am right there with ya bud... I am 26, make ridiculous money and usually play video games or binge TV shows to get away from reality.
I dont have any helpful advise, just can share some things that have worked well in my case...
- 1, I would say try making a change... I know youre married, so it might be a bit harder but change cities. Usually when I go this my mood stays elevated for around a month, I have changed 7 cities in the last 7 years moving again next month. I am assuming your job is also remote- if so, I would highly reccomend taking on the "Gypsy" lifestyle just AirBnb from city to city every couple of months... Its not a long term fix but definitely a good short term fix in my case.
I am also a big gamer... the good part is beginning October, there are going to be some amazing launches. Horizon Forbidden west, FarCry 6 and many others... that will also keep you occupied for a couple of months..
Since your married, talk to your wife/husband/significant other- maybe a trip migth be in store?
Also, I dont have one personally- but if your a dog person- Go get a dog! for real- they are happiness machines..
I am not on any medicines but do have a bad addiction to nicotine (I vape) and eat crappy food...
Also- again I have no personal experience- but try meeting a therapist...
But I am a 26 year old sales guy, who is in a similar boat (I wouldn't say I am depressed but have this deep intense feeling of "something is missing" I need to do more. I think I have had a mixed career, My first job I was PIP'd and I voluntarily left soon after. My second job I was the company's number 1 salesperson (Out of 60) and made a ton of money, I again soon left after- because "Something" was missing. My third job was so-so at best and again I felt something... On my 4th Job now, doing great by all respects, and yet I am interviewing for another job (Scratching my head on why).... The only rational explanation I have found is I love change... if you have savings and a good relationship with family/GF, I think a good idea might be to take some time off and spend sometime away from it all to think about what "really matters" and then come back and find your next path...
